07.15.07 - 9:33 am

jordan to sarah:
schools next to me.
http://www.portlandmaps.com/detail.cfm?
action=Schools&propertyid=R328251&state
_id=1S1E12DA%20%205900&address_id=680558
&intersection_id=&dynamic_point=0&x=7658
500.893&y=674286.551&place=3608%20SE%204
0TH%20AVE&city=PORTLAND&neighborhood=
CRESTON%2DKENILWORTH&seg_id=122807

sex offenders.
http://www.portlandmaps.com/detail.cfm?
action=Offenders&propertyid=R328251&
state_id=1S1E12DA%20%205900&address_id=
680558&intersection_id=&dynamic_point=0
&x=7658500.893&y=674286.551&place=3608%
20SE%2040TH%20AVE&city=PORTLAND&
neighborhood=CRESTON%2DKENILWORTH&
seg_id=122807

census.
http://www.portlandmaps.com/detail.cfm?
action=Census&propertyid=R328251&state_
id=1S1E12DA%20%205900&address_id=680558
&intersection_id=&dynamic_point=0&x=
7658500.893&y=674286.551&place=3608%20
SE%2040TH%20AVE&city=PORTLAND&
neighborhood=CRESTON%2DKENILWORTH&
seg_id=122807

my zip code summary:
http://www.city-data.com/zips/97202.html

your zip code summary:
http://www.city-data.com/zips/97302.html

crime in salem appears to be about the same as where i live according to the police statistics (you are south central salem):
http://www.cityofsalem.net/departments/police/crime_stats.htm

some sites i want you to look at. basically crime is the same as far as amounts in the last year. 300 to 500 individual crimes during a 12 month period. ive looked at a few sex offender sites, some which list 40 in your area, and some that list 7 in your area. i have between 3 and 6 in my zip code.

what im trying to point out is that im very passionate and dedicated to having ashton live here and go to preschool. im within walking distance of the headstart school, which you grunted at, but is still a great place to start children. there are also several other good schools close to me. crime does not affect these places nor ashtons safety. ashton has his own bedroom here. his own bed. he has a tv and cable in his room, for emergency use only.

i really want this sarah. dont disregard this idea just yet.

find me.
lets talk.

sarah to jordan:
im not planning on sending ashton to school in salem.
i just put a downpayment on a place im buying. its in sherwood. right next to the YMCA
im moving in in sept/oct.

ashton has always lived with me.

im not about to just... change that.
his own room and his own bed. that's great. i have all those things for him as well. im glad you do too! its awesome. but that doesnt mean that he needs to be living with you.

my grandparents were kind enough to help out while i saved up to buy a place. the only reason ive been living with them is for that reason. and for childcare reasons.

i know you want ash to live with you jordan but you're going to have to realise that it just isn't that way. i dont know what else to say. im willing to talk and share with you anything that goes on in his life, and for this year if you find a couple days a week preschool that we can both agree on that is by your house, we can work that out. i will be just as involved in it as you will be. but, as far as living sittuations go, and kindergarden next year..and the beginning of his school career..ashton is going to be with mom. and you can be as involved as you want. but he will live with me jordan.

you need to agree to this or else i will legalize it.
im not trying to threaten you.
but this is how its been for the past 4 years. why would you suddenly just want to change it because you're finding the time now? i think im being reasonable. i want this to work out as well as possible and i want us to get along.

ive already thought over the preschool sitch for the fall. that's fair.

jordan to sarah:
"you need to agree to this or else i will legalize it.
im not trying to threaten you.
but this is how its been for the past 4 years. why would you suddenly just want to change it because you're finding the time now?"

yes, it is a threat when you say "its either the way i want it, or ill take you to court." i can pursue legal options as well sarah.

the one thing you always incorrectly emphasize is that youve had him for four years, and now suddenly i want him. this is not the case at all, nor has it ever been. yes youve had him a fair amount during the last four years, during which ive been just as involved. to deny that would be absurd. it has nothing to do with me now suddenly finding the time, but everything to do with hes old enough to go to school now, and for the last four years....he has not been. and i want to be able to enroll him in a school close to me, and be a part of that.

its completely obvious to me that this whole discussion revolves not around the best interests of ashton, but your continued interest in getting your way, without compromise. its difficult to not take your disregards for my beliefs and suggestions as anything but a personal attack.

ill see you monday evening.

sarah to jordan:
im not gonna argue.
over analyze all you want.

im not doing this to be a bitch.
i think its best for him.
im his mom.
blah.
i never said anything about taking you to court.
i dont care about getting my way only, thats just what you like to focus on for some reason.
ur annoying.