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10.16.06 - 11:42 am julia: me: I�m not angry at myself for the choice you made in ending our relationship. When I think about the poor decision making involved with continuing my relationship with Sarah, I can justify it. It�s easy for me to say, well, I had hope. I had hope that things were going to work out in spite of everything, against all the obvious signs I was wrong. Would I make the same decisions again? I hope not. But at the time, I was willing to sacrifice to make it work. I think anyone else would have. I think everyone is supposed to under similar circumstances, the mistakes are just as valuable as the potential success. And that�s where I get really angry. I get mad that you chose to end our friendship because of a difficult relationship I was having with someone else. Is this really your only reason? And this may be ignorant, since I really don�t know, but it�s interesting you chose to end what we had, yet continue to be close friends with people, who in my perspective, had similar personal problems they were battling: Adan with drugs. Jordan with infidelity. Jeff with marijuana addiction. Not the same as a troubled girlfriend, but just as damaging. But more importantly, what about the disagreements I had with your behavior? Your continued weed use. The fact that after Italy, the only time I ever saw you was when you were high with Adan. The thought of ending my friendship with you because of how strongly I felt against you doing that was an impossibility. You knew my feelings on it in regards to you. You knew that I hated how often I thought you drank, and your cigarette smoking. What I'm trying to poorly point out is that in spite of the choices you were making that I continually and strongly disagreed with, never was I going to end my adoration of you. And I'm angry that you disagreed so strongly with my relationship with Sarah, that I was forced to choose between the two of you. All of course, while I was supposed to tolerate your behavior, without requiring the same decision from you. I�m not going to be angry at myself for a choice you made, when I am unable to empathize the reasons behind it. I can�t relate to ending my relationship with you because of the choices you were making that I disagreed with. I am pleased that you think of me every day. I think of you every day. And yes, I battle daily with fixing this, and working us out. In many ways, these emails are a start, and aren�t pointless. But don�t expect me to use you as an emergency anything. How stupid does that sound in the context of our current situation? I hope things are going well for you.
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