10.05.09 - 9:38 am

here is my transcription of the custody and parenting time evaluation summary. things of particular interest are in bold, and will be expanded on.

it is recommended that sarah have sole legal custody of ashton.

jordan shall have parenting time thursday after school (2:15pm) until monday morning drop off at school (8:00am), and alternate thursday overnights from after school thursday (2:15pm) until friday morning drop off at school (8:00am).

weekend parenting time includes holidays and non school days. for example, if a holiday or no school day falls on a monday during jordans weekend parenting time, he should drop off ashton at school tuesday morning.�

halloween. parents to alternate yearly or agree to share. in 2009, preference to be given to parent whose regular parenting time falls on the weekend of halloween.

thanksgiving. sarah to have parenting time in odd numbered years, jordan in even, from the release of school wedneday to friday at 6:00 pm. the other parent to have parenting time from friday at 6:00 pm to monday morning drop off at school.

winter break. sarah to have parenting time in odd numbered years the first part of winter break, starting with the day school lets out and ending christmas eve at 8:00 pm. jordan to have parenting time from then on until school resumes. this will switch in even numbered years.�

spring break. sarah to have parenting time in even numbered years and jordan in odd numbered years. the parenting time will be for one full weekend and from monday through friday.�

easter. jordan to have parenting time in even numbered years from 9:00 am sunday to 6:00 pm sunday.

memorial day and labor day. jordan to have parenting time the duration of memorial day weekend every year, ending with drop off at school tuesday morning.
sarah to have parenting time the duration of labor day weekend every year.�

independence day. jordan to have parenting time in odd numbered years and sarah in even numbered years from the evening of july 3 to the morning of july 5.

summer. parenting time should be one week on, one week off during the summer months for each parent. this begins the first friday following the last day of school. summer parenting time should be coordinated between the parents such that ashton can take full advantage of activities or camps during the summer months.

mothers and fathers day. parents to have parenting time on their respective holiday, if it does not already fall on their regular scheduled parenting time, it will be from 9:00 am sunday to the following morning.�

ashtons birthday. parents to celebrate ashtons birthday during their regularly schedules pareting time.�

parents birthdays. parents to celebrate their birthdays with ashton during their regularly scheduled parenting time.

alternating weekends. when parents are using an alternate weekend plan and the holiday schedule would result in one parent having ashton for three weeks in a row, the alternating weekend pattern shall restart so neither parent will go without having ashton for more than two weekends in a row.�

mental health. individual therapy for ashton is recommended to reduce his fears and anxieties, and to help him adjust better to living in two homes. this would be best conducted by a family therapist, as each parent should participate and also participate ashton when he is deemed ready for their participation.�

co parent counseling is strongly indicated.�

individual therapy is also strongly indicated for each parent to improve insight, improve anger management and problem solving skills and improve parenting skills.� sarah should continue her therapy.

medical. sarah to take ashton to all non emergency medical and dental appointments, and to inform jordan of any recommendations.
parents are to notify each other if there are any significant changes in ashtons health.

education. both parents to insure ashton maintains regular attendance and arrives to school on time. both parents to participate in school related activities and attened parent teacher conferences.

other matters. both parents to insure ashtion is not exposed to any movies, video games, or any other media that is not specifically rated as appropriate for his age level.
both parents should be restrained from making any derogatory comments about the other parent or significant other to or infront of ashton or in any way diminsh the love, respect and affection that ashton has for the other parent.
both parents to refrain from discussing court or legal matters or custody and parenting time disputes in front of or to ashton.
both parents should be restrained from discussing with ashton what he will be missing out on when he is with the other parent or what they will do when he returns home, but rather are encouraged to focus on the positive experiences he will have when with the other parent.
phone calls between ashton and each parent should occur on a regular and unrestricted basis, and can be initiated by parent or child. if initiated by the parent and child cannot be reached, the other parent should insure that the call is returned that day if possible but no later than 24 hours after. it is not recommended that ashton have his own cell phone at this age due to both emotional and well as physical concerns. he should be with a responsible adult at all times who can assist him with contacting a parent in a case or emergency.
both parents are encouraged to use the other parent as their primary source for childcare, however, given their level of conflict this should not be required. while ashton would benefit from being with the other parent more than any other care provider, each parent may choose their own childcare providers.
both parents to return to mediation.